Many of us spend too much time trying to please everybody, or we worry too much about what other people think. We let others’ opinions influence our decisions, or even take on other people’s issues in ways that negatively influence our opinions of ourselves. That’s why it’s crucial to set emotional boundaries if you want to create healthy relationships.

    It’s a lesson that took Shonda Rhimes, Wes Moore and Iyanla Vanzant a long time to learn. Here, Shonda explains why you should learn to say no unapologetically, Wes cautions against letting other people’s opinions control your life, and Iyanla shares why you shouldn’t take on other people’s problems and make them about you.